Mr. Rogers says

"If I'm sad about something and I dismiss my sadness by saying, 'oh, well, it was for the best,' then I'm probably not willing or able to explore how I'm feeling.  If I'm angry with someone and I say, '...I don't care,' then I probably don't know what I'm really reeling.  On the other hand, if we adults can allow ourselves to be gentle with ourselves no matter what our feelings may be, we have the chance of discovering the very deep roots of who we are."

"Caring comes from the Gothic word kara, which means 'to lament.'  So caring is not what a powerful person gives to a weaker one.  Caring is a matter of being there...lamenting right along with the one who laments."